We’ve all heard “sticks and stones can break my bones, but words can never hurt me.” We know that’s not true. Words can hurt. They can both wound the soul and heal the broken heart. Words are one of the primary tools with which we relate to and influence others – and ourselves.

This week I’m reading Power Words by Sharon Anne Klingler, one of the world’s leading intuitives. She writes that certain words transmit a “frequency” because they activate physical and emotional responses. Some words energize and uplift. Other words de-energize and drag us down.

A few years ago I read similar book, Dr. Masaru Emoto’s Hidden Messages in Water. This book has received world-wide acclaim. It was featured in the movie What the Bleep Do We Know? You might be familiar with it. Dr. Emoto conducted several experiments where he taped words to vials of water. Some vials had positive words such as “wisdom” and “thank you.” Some vials had negative words such as “you fool,” and “you make me sick.” When he photographed the water crystals, he made an amazing discovery! The negative words created crystals patterns that were asymmetrical and haphazard. The positive words created crystal patterns that were beautiful and intricately symmetrical.

So I got to thinking about the words that people use when they talk about changing their body size. When people are overweight, they often decide they “need” to “lose weight,” or to follow a “weight loss” plan or “diet.” These common words are supposed to refer to the actions that lead to a smaller, healthier body size. Do these words seem energizing to you? They don’t to me.

Let’s examine them for a moment. People don’t like to be “needy” or to be “in need.” “Loss” refers to something that brings grief. When someone dies, we say to their loved ones, “I’m sorry for your loss.” When we “lose” something, we usually want to find it or replace it. The word “diet” contains the word “die”. Say it slowly and it sounds like “die yet”, as in “Did you die yet?” Some people associate the word “diet” with food restriction and deprivation, even when that isn’t the case. The word “weight” is a homonym for “wait” – so don’t be in any hurry to get your results. Is it possible that these words are part of the reason that so many people fail when they attempt to slim down? These words are not at all motivating! That’s why I seldom use them in my writing.

We need a better vocabulary! Instead of talking about “dieting” let’s talk about “eating nutritious foods” instead of Instead of “needing to lose weight” let’s talk about “choosing actions that bring about a healthy, fit body size.” Instead of “weight loss” let’s talk about “liberating the slender self” or “creating a more attractive physical appearance.” While “exercise” is an appealing word to me, to some people it signifies boring, repetitive movement. So we could replace “exercise” with “sculpting muscle” or “supercharging the metabolism!” Think of your own creative power word substitutions for these terms.

So, here is my invitation. If you are engaged in the joyful pursuit of “reshaping your physique”, do this for a week: Change your vocabulary. Think and say energizing words when you describe the activities that affect your body size and your health. Find out how much more motivated you feel!

Until next time! – Judy